Are we in relationships with people or ideas? Can we love unconditionally or do we love based on whether that person is doing what we believe they are supposed to do in order for us to be happy?
Am I so weakly rooted in my joy that another’s mood can throw me into despair, even anger? That is my wake-up call. My partner has pointed out, in his unwillingness to be what I would call perfect, that I am still asleep at times. My beloved has provoked me to awaken, to ground into my happiness, to love him unconditionally. Am I awake when I need him to change in order to be fulfilled? Spirit, please talk to me about what an Awakened Relationship would be like. How do we get there? I’m listening…
The greatest teacher of them all is relationship.
It’s never about them and what they’re doing. It is always about you and what you think about what they’re doing.
You don’t need to be with a partner who is ‘awake’ to experience the love of an awakened partnership. If only one of you is awake at any given time that is enough for a perfectly imperfect enlightened relationship.
Imperfect? Wouldn’t a relationship with an enlightened person be perfect?
Even when two enlightened Beings come together, their relationship will ebb and flow. Just like the tides, this is the nature of all things. If you wanted perfection dear heart, you would not have incarnated here. The very fabric of relationships, and indeed life itself, is enriched with stimulating challenges. You can count on that.
This isn’t a dialogue about the perfect joining together or the perfect mate but rather the awakened path in relating to another Being. A Being who comes with their own unique blend of wants and desires.
What follows is our recipe for awakened relating:
Give space for each other to be true – true to your own desires, to your own feelings, to your own souls.
Honour each other’s emotions, cycles, and perspectives. Each is as valid as the other.
Enjoy quality time together, and quality time apart.
Give each other space to grow. Give each other time to work things out. Forgive.
See the other authentically. Look with the eyes of your heart and decide to love unconditionally. Love because it is your nature. Love because it feels better than anything else.
Don’t demand for anything other than truth…and don’t ask that your partner change so you might be happy. If they could manage to, it wouldn’t last.
Take absolute ownership over your own emotions – those are your sole domain.
When you come together, listen to each other. Be there in that day, at that moment, present together.
Be grateful for a focal point to love with your whole, open heart.
And be kind enough to accept love when it is offered.
An awakened relationship is seeing the other with the eyes of your heart.
This text is copyright Brighitta Moser-Clark.
Brighitta is a Reiki Master / Teacher and Channel based in London. She is available for Reiki combined with intuitive guidance from Spirit Guides, Angels, and loved ones for deep and transformative holistic healing sessions. Find out more about Sessions and Courses @ awakening-light-reiki.com